In life, married life, dating life, work life, life with friends….are you unhappy and being treated in ways that upset you or you’re uncomfortable with???
We can all say we’ve been in relationships like this at some point. You may be struggling in one of those areas or many of them. This may be a pattern or something you’ve allowed to creep into your life.

My message comes from the perspective I gained being in the pits of despair in a relationship and now living a peaceful and joyful life. I’m not an expert on relationships. In fact, people would probably laugh if you asked them about my history with relationships. What I am though is happy. I’ve figured out some things.

I believe strongly that when you feel like you should do something, you do it. So, here I am. A middle-aged mom lady with grown kids, a failed marriage, a good career, great friends, family, a failed relationship with “the church,” a rockin relationship with Jesus, and confident enough to live exactly how I think I should.

Do you want to be weak and scared with no decision-making abilities for the rest of your miserable life, or do you WANT a HAPPY life?! If you desire happiness, you’re a warrior, and you can go get it. Whoever or whatever is upsetting you will never do that for you. It WILL get worse. Takers take, that’s what they do. It’s up to the giver to say that’s enough. And if you never say that’s enough, you’ll always give more and more of yourself until you’re completely gone. So, you need to resign yourself to that life or rise up and take your life back. It’s not easy, it’s not quick, it’s a billion percent worth it. 10/10 would recommend. And don’t think you’re not strong enough. You ARE strong enough. You’ve just got to want it. Because it has to be taken, it won’t be given.

I can’t let you leave without a bit of advice. Homework, if you will, between now and next time. I’m going to practice too.
Say yes, ONLY when you WANT TO.
Find the confidence and courage to say no when you want to say no.
Don’t be mean about it. Don’t over-explain it. Just be honest with yourself.
There’s NOTHING wrong with saying no.
If you try and fail, try again.
Don’t stop trying.
If you desire happiness, you have it in you, but you have to exercise it, like any other muscle.
Please let me know if this has helped you 🙏
Godspeed in your journey.